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| Tweet Topic Started: Apr 19 2016, 03:09 PM (1,311 Views) | |
| * Ketchup Revenge | Apr 19 2016, 10:14 PM Post #16 |
"Gentlemen, you can't fight in here! This is the war room!"
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Just to add, that if she has a criminal history (and by the sound of it, she might because she's stolen from you), they'd probably simply brush it off anyway. It seems like this girl has done everything but file a restraining order against you, and if it gets bad for you, and you have evidence that she's trying to harm you in any way, you could file one against her. She wouldn't even be able to contact you on social media or text you because restraining orders now encompass that as well. |
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| Know'm Sayin' | Apr 19 2016, 10:35 PM Post #17 |
ZERO HOOTS GANG
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No proof fam, tell that crazy thot to kick rocks, know'm sayin'?
Edited by Know'm Sayin', Apr 19 2016, 10:38 PM.
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R.I.P. 3pac; ZERO HOOTS GANG
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Apr 20 2016, 06:12 AM Post #18 |
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This thread ruins whut |
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| Zoom | Apr 20 2016, 06:22 AM Post #19 |
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Talk to a free legal aid. Write some stuff down so you won't forget ask the lawyer what should you do? |
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| Mihawk | Apr 20 2016, 05:46 PM Post #20 |
 
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Err... you just admitted to the crime in this thread which counts as evidence |
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Apr 20 2016, 06:01 PM Post #21 |
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I admitted to what I did, but what I did isn't a crime. Also, the chances her finding this thread are slim to none, not to mention there is no connection between who I am on this forum and who I am in real life. |
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| EMIYA | Apr 20 2016, 06:13 PM Post #22 |
"I am the bone of my sword."
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That's not molesting and the simple fact that you attempted to apologize for your actions only makes up for it. While you should indeed reflect upon your actions, there's simply no way her getting the police involved will do anything. As for the things she's done to you, the so called crimes, unfortunately unless you do have significant evidence, getting that on her may be tough. That's unfortunately is the exact kind of world we live in. However, above all else, you shouldn't feel the need to make up anything or expect anything from her. You've made your points, you apparently have tried to apologize and this girl does not seem to want to reciprocate those feelings. If she is harming you be it physically, emotionally, socially or in some way, do not take it. While I don't believe you ever intend to see it this way, it's this kind of thinking that almost establishes an abusive relationship. The kind where you're constantly trying to forgive the other or wait for forgiveness. If her actions are becoming bothersome enough to warrant an effect on your life, once again, seek action. I won't tell you how to do it because frankly I'm not one to instigate morals, though I think you know any action you take will warrant consequences of some sort. But I almost guarantee that doing something will be far more beneficial than just ignoring it or hoping she sees the error of her ways. |
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Apr 20 2016, 06:35 PM Post #23 |
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I just don't know what else to do aside from what I've already done. I've attempted to apologize multiple times despite the fact that she's done nothing to deserve the apologies. Ever since she found out I had moved on and was with someone else, she has been jarrassing me by texting me abusive, rude things in an attempt to tear me down, make me out to be the bad guy, and make herself feel better because of this constant state of bitterness she's in. Just the other day she texted me to tell me that I'm a disrespectful, spoiled brat, and that eventually my new boyfriend would realize this and cheat on me. She tells me that I'm a terrible person, a waste of space. You name it. I blocked her since then, obviously, but I don't understand why so many people feel the need to blame others for their own mistakes and make other people feel as bad as they do. That isn't how life should work. |
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| EMIYA | Apr 20 2016, 07:01 PM Post #24 |
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"I am the bone of my sword."
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You need to lay down a level of assertiveness. From what it sounds like, this girl has no intention of either forgiving you or leaving you alone. Just as the most minor form of say school bullying is wrong, this level of harassment is also wrong. You have to make a stand to assert your self against her. You are not obliged to forgive her or expect to give anything to her in return. If she does not understand this and more importantly if she keeps up this level of harassment, you don't need to take it. And once more, I won't take the moral route here. I think the smart idea is to go to the police, file a complaint and do it as legally as you can. But in the end, it really boils down to this. "I have tried to be nice and attempted to apologize to you for the things I've done. However this level of harassment against me will stop and if you do not stop there will be consequences." And you need to make good on that threat. If that means going to the police and filing a complaint then do so. You don't need this kind of person in your life and she needs to know perfectly well that she doesn't have the right to harass you in such a way. A level of assertiveness is needed when it comes to this. While an aggressive nature may be too much, a too forgiving or passive nature is just as bad, one I may say is even worse. |
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| + Pyrus | Apr 20 2016, 08:16 PM Post #25 |
 
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Even so, there isn't a whole lot a restraining order will accomplish. She could be cited or put in jail for a bit, but will that make her stop? |
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| EMIYA | Apr 20 2016, 09:05 PM Post #26 |
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"I am the bone of my sword."
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It would definitely I think give her the incentive to stop. Doing nothing shows a sign of weakness in which the girl thinks she may have some sort of control. She already thinks she's so good she can take $800, frame or make threats to OFG. Threats either to herself or to OFG. She (the bitter girlfriend) is probably under some impression that she has a level of control over OFG. She may believe that she can force her will over OFG because, from what I gather, she's never been punished for her actions in the first place. But once OFG lays her foot down and makes the expressive force that this nonsense is going to stop and its going to stop immediately or consequences will happen, most of the time I think the other person will back down immediately. This is the exact same kind of issue I had a long time ago when I was younger, being bullied in school and I had this same sort of action at first. This kind of passive action, just ignoring it or hoping that it would blow over and it never did. It was only after getting the school involved, getting some real authority involved and making the other person understand perfectly well that this would not go on that it actually stopped. |
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