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| + Pointer | Feb 1 2016, 04:22 PM Post #1 |
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so it happened, i kinda knew it, but i thought it d be still way too much and hilarious, and it is cuz it just happened. to understand this fully, You have to know that I had a relationship back in 2013 second half. I thought she was the perfect partner for me. Then we broke up. She said something like " I aint feel what I am supposed to".....things happened, and now here i am in the beginning of 2016 and she called me all of a sudden so we shall meet somewhere, I was like wtf(it happened a few times in the past when she tried to reconnect) with me via facebook and something, but she never suggested an actual meeting. So I was shocked, but as silly as I am I agreed to meet. And we meet today. She was straight. she said that "she utterly regrets that she let me go and what would happen if we d try it again together.... I was like "om f***ing god".........She knew what i felt towards her back then, and now she ask me to restart this quickly... When i asked " why did you say this?...." she responded " because I love you "... And thats where I stood up, looked in her beautiful ocean blue eyes, and said this with a calm voice " Bulls***" ..... And I left her there without even say goodbye. She said a lot after this but I dont remember....... i was super f***ed up.. What do you think? have you ever been in this hilarious situation before ? If so how in the blue hell did you manage to "solve" it? |
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| Dankness Lava | Feb 1 2016, 04:27 PM Post #2 |
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I think you were too hasty. A second chance is fine how I see it. But if it falters for the same reason , that's when you eealize something is wrong. Of course if people tried to work out their problems instead of breaking up at the slightest crack, things would be better. |
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| * Mitas | Feb 1 2016, 05:16 PM Post #3 |
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Without knowing the full details on the previous relationship and why/how it ended, it's hard to say whether a second chance would be a good idea or not. The only thing I can say is that you were in a pretty unhappy place when it ended and, from what I gather, struggled a little bit to get over her, so for you to be able to tell her 'no, I won't let you mess me around' is a good thing for you. If you're able to do that and move on, that's great and I'm happy for you man. |
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"Then you've got the chance to do better next time." "Next time?" "Course. Doing better next time. That's what life is." | |
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| + Pointer | Feb 1 2016, 05:45 PM Post #4 |
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it really makes me confused even now.... she is pretty and her personality was ...well Whatever, I buried the feelings, and now she just pulled them back in.... to the point it really made me feel like s*** in this situation, f*** me i even regreted the "bulls***" part in the end. I guess I am a loser further details : http://dbzf.co.uk/blog/entry/4125514/3903/ http://dbzf.co.uk/blog/entry/4125514/4003/ http://dbzf.co.uk/blog/entry/4125514/4015/ Edited by Pointer, Feb 1 2016, 05:49 PM.
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| * Mitas | Feb 1 2016, 05:52 PM Post #5 |
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Why would you say you're a loser? To me, it sounds like you reacted in the most level-headed way possible. She broke up with you, came back a few years later expecting you to have put your life on hold while she was gone so she could come back when she felt like it and pick up where she left off. Losers don't take control of the situation, which you did, and losers don't have the bravery to make decisions that are in their best interests, even if emotions would dictate otherwise, which you also did. So trust me, you aren't a loser. |
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| + Pointer | Feb 1 2016, 05:59 PM Post #6 |
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Well, but the fact she said " because I love you" it hit me so hard as a f***in train..... it is the first time she said it actually. And knowing the fact that she dumped be because of lack of feelings and now coming back with saying the sentence I was eager to hear whenever we were together kinda forces me to a state i guess i cant possibly take control...... Yes I asnwered back , but that was extremely close to another way more immature response, and yet here we are again..............she said what i always wanted to hear, but i cant trust her, or not that i dont trust her but i just cant believe this s*** happening again..... Shall i write her a pm? About that I apology for my "rude" behaviour prior Or shall I reconnect her back as a friend, but again that wont be possible since she said the magic sentence. or should i cut every remaining connection what she reestablished in the past week in the names of "fairness"? Man this mess i wanted the most before a f***ing job interview......which will happen tomorrow and this mess already took control my thoughts and stuff.... damn
Edited by Pointer, Feb 1 2016, 06:02 PM.
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| * Mitas | Feb 1 2016, 06:03 PM Post #7 |
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Again, like I said before, whether you should give her a second chance all depends on the dynamics of the relationship, your own personal feelings etc, so it's up to you whether you contact her. But my honest advice is to leave it. She hurt you, f***ed you up for a period of time, now you're getting over it. It's more important for you to get over her fully, to prioritise your own state of mind. That's what she did when she broke up with you in the first place, so why should you expect any less from yourself? Edit: Nila, hate to be a party pooper but come on man, does this look like a spam/joke topic? Edited by Mitas, Feb 1 2016, 06:04 PM.
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| + Pointer | Feb 1 2016, 06:05 PM Post #8 |
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my mind says this would be the best answer YET THAT ONLY sentence kinda pulled back the all lost hopes, buried feelings, memories, and the f***ing WHAT IFS guess the coin will decide
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| * Mitas | Feb 1 2016, 06:15 PM Post #9 |
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I'd also say that your emotions are going to be higher so soon after seeing her and hearing her say what she said. I know that there were a few occasions where I was over my ex-girlfriend, but she would e-mail me and my stomach would lurch, almost like seeing her name in the inbox brought everything I felt up to the surface again. But it didn't last long. If in a few days you feel more rational about things then it's probably a sign that you're over her and you should move on. But if you still feel like this in a few days or weeks, then maybe you should try to give the relationship another go. Just make sure to talk things out with her, ask her why she didn't love you then, why she thinks she does now. Don't just blindly throw yourself back into it because of old feelings. Look out for yourself. |
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| Dankness Lava | Feb 1 2016, 07:31 PM Post #10 |
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Yeah Mitas has a point. You shouldn't be hasty either way, you should give it time. |
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| Buuberries | Feb 1 2016, 07:41 PM Post #11 |
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after reading your countless posts about all the things she's done to you and how you were still heartbroken by it etc etc, im rly proud of you. imo you did the right thing. |
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