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Living together before marriage is "immoral"
Topic Started: May 25 2015, 03:23 AM (1,118 Views)
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If that's the case, I think, if you're really serious about your partner, that you should consider getting a place without your parents financial support. Your parents will always be there to support you, but you won't always have the ability to come back to your partner if you don't eventually take leap of faith.
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You shouldn't be relying on your parents for 'living expenses' by the time you're 18, let alone 21 years old.
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May 25 2015, 04:13 AM
The problem with the two bedroom thing is it has to be converted into a pretend bedroom, which is just a big lie.

They're conservative Christians and fail to see how my beliefs could ever differ from theirs. We obviously just need to have a discussion.
My brother is facing this same issue with our parents and his girlfriend. Because they are paying for it all, he doesn't really have a choice. In fact they didn't allow him to move in with her at all.

They had no say in the matter when I first allowed my ex to live with me. Because I was paying for everything. They do say however that if we ever want to spend the night at their house we have to sleep in separate rooms.
It's an old way of thinking that dates back to when they were growing up. They've adopted it and made it there own. My ex and her parents were fully non-religious and had no issues with us moving in together, or sleeping in the same room at their house. So it's definitely backed by religion.

In my opinion, while it's good to move in with your partner to test the waters of the relationship and make financials easier, it's also easier to get a 2bd, especially if they are paying for it. When I lived near Texas State, I had a 2bdr, and that wasn't because we were living together. It was because the rent was so cheap, you'd be stupid not to get a 2bdr. It worked in my favor all 4 years. When it was all said and done, the ex moved out, and I was able to get a male roommate to share the cost. During her living there, we also had another roommate for a year which made the cost a third of what it was, super cheap. When no one was living there, we turned it into a study room, and had extra storage space in the closet.
My suggestion is you take the offer before one doesn't exist, and pretend like she is sleeping in that room for the first week or so. Everytime they issue a come-over warrant, have her sleep and dirty up the room the day before. Throw clothes all over the place as if she's messy, etc... leave glasses and stuff.
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Setting aside whether getting a 2-bedroom would be a good or bad thing (depends on the people involved, I can definitely see the benefits of it, I can also see why people would want to share a bedroom), this all comes down to the fact that your parents are financially supporting you. It's their money, if they want to dictate terms in order for you to receive it, that's their business. You don't have to take it, but if you do take it, you can't complain about the baggage that comes with it. Simple answer: take full responsibility of your financial concerns. That way it's your house, and you can do whatever the hell you want inside it (obviously within the reams of the law :P), regardless of whether your parents approve of it. As long as you continue to take your parents financial support, you run the risk of them cutting you off because they don't approve of what you're doing with the money.
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May 25 2015, 01:11 PM
That way it's your house, and you can do whatever the hell you want inside it (obviously within the reams of the law :P)
Like summoning demons through a pentagram portal by laying with your partner in the shape of one.

It's not illegal yet.

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Hey, if they're paying the bills, summon away.
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May 25 2015, 08:47 AM
You shouldn't be relying on your parents for 'living expenses' by the time you're 18, let alone 21 years old.
I call BS on that one. Maybe if you're 25+ but if you're a broke a*" college student. You're going to want some help until you're fully ready to pay for yourself.

It's actually quite common. In most cases you're not 100% independent when you're 18. You just taste it.
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Thanks for the support guys. My girlfriend and I actually went out to look for two bedroom apartments today, and we found one that seems to match our needs. We talked to my parents about it and they seemed alright with it (for now at least) and weren't mad. If all goes well, we'll be moved out by the end of July/early August.
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