Is it possible to stop being a socially awkward person?

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Is it possible to stop being a socially awkward person?
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Return Of Imjustsaiyanbro	Apr 16 2015, 10:21 PM Post #1
Elder Posts: 1,080 Group: Member Member #9,167 Joined: March 11, 2013 Gender Not Specified Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga DB	My whole life I've been reserved, nervous in a lot of social settings and very subconscious. Occasionally I break out of my shell. Now I'm 17 and although I've made a good amount of friends and stuff I still pretty much feel the same. Even walking the hallway I'm thinking about kids looking at me and laughing at the way I dress or walk. I don't feel like I have a disorder but its just that I can't help myself and I feel its been like this for too long and is limiting my potential. Any help or tips? Anybody can relate?
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~~GrooseStrikesBack~~	Apr 16 2015, 10:29 PM Post #2
Posts: 4,614 Group: Suspended Member #6,508 Joined: July 20, 2011 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime The Steve Austin Show: Unleashed. What Browser do you use? Can o Whoop Ass. Favourite Manga Family Friendly Version of the Steve Austin Show.	I think it's natural to be a little awkward around people outside of your group of friends. It all depends. Just put on a fake smile. That's all I can tell you.



Buuberries	Apr 16 2015, 10:30 PM Post #3
No Posts: 7,150 Group: Members Member #8,753 Joined: December 30, 2012 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime The Passion of Christ What Browser do you use? Christianity Favourite Manga The Bible	sounds more like social anxiety than being socially awkward too many things to go over in one post and i dont want to bore you with theories, but a tl;dr version of it is yes because a lot of the time these things are due to irrational beliefs and maladaptive thinking, which can be changed. of course these things might be endogenous rather than reactive, in which case there's medication for all of that, but from the few things you've explained it sounds more like it's reactive and not too severe. also it's all well and good asking for other people's experiences, but if you feel like you really need help, then seeing a professional would be a better thing to do than to ask people on a forum.
	¯\(°_o)/¯


Master Gohan	Apr 16 2015, 10:31 PM Post #4
Posts: 2,178 Group: New York Yankee Member #9,780 Joined: July 21, 2013 Gender Male Country United States Favourite Anime KIll la Kill, No Game No Life, Code Geass, Gosick, Log Horizon, Steins;Gate	I don't know but does talking more with people help get over it? I honestly have no idea. I get this a lot too. I'm weird around people i'm not friends with but really open and hyper with my friends.



~~GrooseStrikesBack~~	Apr 16 2015, 10:34 PM Post #5
Posts: 4,614 Group: Suspended Member #6,508 Joined: July 20, 2011 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime The Steve Austin Show: Unleashed. What Browser do you use? Can o Whoop Ass. Favourite Manga Family Friendly Version of the Steve Austin Show.	I'd think so. I can kinda relate & whenever I talk to strangers I get a little better each time. I have the advantage with them that they don't know how much of a vulgar mubbling idiot I am. Hah



* Mitas	Apr 16 2015, 10:41 PM Post #6
It truly was a Shawshank redemption Posts: 12,129 Group: Retired Staff Member #2,993 Joined: December 16, 2007 Gender Male Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga DBZ, Full Metal Alchemist	I can sort of relate, although I have a personality disorder, so it's a bit different. However, I've been told that that can change (change as in the symptoms can become less of a problem, or in some cases not a problem at all), so I assume that that's even more possible if there is no personality disorder. I do think some people are more naturally reserved and introverted (myself included, personality issues aside), and while that might not necessarily change, what you mentioned seems to be more down to self-esteem/self-confidence issues, which can definitely improve. We have no way of knowing what other people are thinking, and people with insecurities often use this as a way of confirming things that they think about themselves, when in fact we're using 'evidence' that might not even exist. "I probably look stupid wearing this....yeah that person over there probably thinks I look stupid too". The key word is 'probably'. You don't actually know. It's just as much a possibility that they think you look great. Or that they don't even have an opinion on you, or even noticed you at all. I know from experience that it's not just as easy as switching your thought process, but even just keeping this in mind, introducing a little argument to your self-doubt, can be helpful. Next time you start worrying what people are thinking about you, just remind yourself that there's no way of knowing that for sure, and not to let something that might not even be true get you down.
	"Then you've got the chance to do better next time." "Next time?" "Course. Doing better next time. That's what life is."


Buuberries	Apr 16 2015, 10:45 PM Post #7
No Posts: 7,150 Group: Members Member #8,753 Joined: December 30, 2012 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime The Passion of Christ What Browser do you use? Christianity Favourite Manga The Bible	talking to other people more and more does help because it lets you realise that not everyone scrutinises your every action. it's like what i mentioned about maladaptive thought processes. one might think they're being judged every second. you talk to more people and realise you're not. your beliefs have been challenged and you realise that you're overgeneralising. edit: facing your fears slowly allows you to expand your comfort zone and over time you get desensitised to things that once caused you to feel a negative emotion Edited by Buuberries, Apr 16 2015, 10:48 PM.
	¯\(°_o)/¯


Zoom	Apr 16 2015, 10:55 PM Post #8
Posts: 3,426 Group: Member Member #12,146 Joined: March 16, 2015 Gender Male	Return Of Imjustsaiyanbro Apr 16 2015, 10:21 PM My whole life I've been reserved, nervous in a lot of social settings and very subconscious. Occasionally I break out of my shell. Now I'm 17 and although I've made a good amount of friends and stuff I still pretty much feel the same. Even walking the hallway I'm thinking about kids looking at me and laughing at the way I dress or walk. I don't feel like I have a disorder but its just that I can't help myself and I feel its been like this for too long and is limiting my potential. Any help or tips? Anybody can relate? I'm alot like you, im shy, quiet, passive. Could this behaviour stem from being afraid of women?



Return Of Imjustsaiyanbro	Apr 16 2015, 11:06 PM Post #9
Elder Posts: 1,080 Group: Member Member #9,167 Joined: March 11, 2013 Gender Not Specified Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga DB	hellobooboo Apr 16 2015, 10:55 PM Return Of Imjustsaiyanbro Apr 16 2015, 10:21 PM My whole life I've been reserved, nervous in a lot of social settings and very subconscious. Occasionally I break out of my shell. Now I'm 17 and although I've made a good amount of friends and stuff I still pretty much feel the same. Even walking the hallway I'm thinking about kids looking at me and laughing at the way I dress or walk. I don't feel like I have a disorder but its just that I can't help myself and I feel its been like this for too long and is limiting my potential. Any help or tips? Anybody can relate? I'm alot like you, im shy, quiet, passive. Could this behaviour stem from being afraid of women? Lol possibly. I don't have too many actual female friends although. I wouldn't necessarily say I'm scared but when talking to most I feel my face getting hot (thank god i'm black so it doesnt show on my skin) and when I'm talking my breathing feels like when I'm lifting a barbell lol Thank you everyone for your responses. I think I should see a professional about this
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* Mitas	Apr 16 2015, 11:08 PM Post #10
It truly was a Shawshank redemption Posts: 12,129 Group: Retired Staff Member #2,993 Joined: December 16, 2007 Gender Male Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga DBZ, Full Metal Alchemist	Sounds like anxiety, so it's definitely a good idea to talk to a professional, if it's manifesting itself physically.
	"Then you've got the chance to do better next time." "Next time?" "Course. Doing better next time. That's what life is."


Return Of Imjustsaiyanbro	Apr 16 2015, 11:21 PM Post #11
Elder Posts: 1,080 Group: Member Member #9,167 Joined: March 11, 2013 Gender Not Specified Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga DB	Mitas Apr 16 2015, 11:08 PM Sounds like anxiety, so it's definitely a good idea to talk to a professional, if it's manifesting itself physically. I remember taking a quiz online and the results pretty much said the same thing lol. Not sure how it legit it was though
	STRAIGHT OUTTA NAMEK I miss my cocoa butter kisses. Which one of these mods tryna let me bust? Spoiler: click to toggle Spoiler: click to toggle


* Mitas	Apr 16 2015, 11:25 PM Post #12
It truly was a Shawshank redemption Posts: 12,129 Group: Retired Staff Member #2,993 Joined: December 16, 2007 Gender Male Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga DBZ, Full Metal Alchemist	Online tests can be a mixed bag. I've taken some just out of interest and the three diagnoses I have all showed up, but so did some things I don't have. So yeah, best to talk to a professional since they can get a more personal feel of things and help accordingly.
	"Then you've got the chance to do better next time." "Next time?" "Course. Doing better next time. That's what life is."


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