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Topic Started: Oct 26 2014, 09:56 PM (490 Views)
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Have you ever had a dream about your ex? I am totally sure

Have you had this dream continuously after almost one year after the break up?

In these dreams she is totally nice and damn beautiful, everything is as It used to be ...and I am happy.

Makes me damn confused after the wake up
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No. My dreams include my subconcious decision to tell her how i dont care about her anymore.
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Oct 26 2014, 10:04 PM
No. My dreams include my subconcious decision to tell her how i dont care about her anymore.
If I could lucid dream, but it is all just regular dreaming where I thought everything is okay even if a giant chicken wanted to smash me with its head

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still do every so often even after four years but it's at the point where i can leave the negativity behind yet move on with the good memories, so the dreams just remind me of those and i think about them fondly w/o feeling like s***
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I dont like these dreams not because she is in there just because it reminds me what might happen if we were still together

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It's natural. I split from my ex over a year ago, and I've had multiple dreams including her. Not recurring dreams, maybe once every month or two, but the most recent one was a few weeks ago. It's all to do with regret/unresolved feelings and issues. I can only imagine that even 10 years down the line, when/if I'm in a happy relationship, I'll still have the occasional dream about her, just like I still have an occasional dream including people from school who I haven't seen in years. It's just how dreams work. They're fuelled by your inner most thoughts, maybe something during the day triggered a memory of that person that you weren't aware of, but it stuck in your subconscious. And of course, if you're regularly thinking about that person, then it's more likely you'll dream about them.

My advice (advice that I'm trying to follow myself) is to try and not focus too much on how happy you were/could have been, because while that may be true, we often look at the past in rose-tinted glasses, only seeing the positives and ignoring the negatives. It's easier said than done but try and focus more on the things in your life that are positives right now, and just know that you'll eventually move on when you find your next partner. Once you've began to move on from your past relationship with your ex, the dreams will start to become less and less frequent.
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It's all to do with regret/unresolved feelings and issues.
agree with mitas on that (hi mitas. long time !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

depends on ur relationship with the woman -- how much you were into her and how serious it was. if at the time you saw it as a long-term thing and you could see yourself settling down w/ her, etc., then, depending on how you are yourself, of course you might have so many unanswered questions or w/e the case may be that's preventing you from moving on.


one thing i always ask myself and other people when they come to me with their relationship problems -- be it a friendship or a romantic relationship -- is whether they miss the actual person or the relationship/intimacy with the person.
the amount of s*** you experience with someone and all the s*** you did with them -- all the dates, the whirlwind of emotions at the start of any relationship, the sex, all the intimate conversations, and so on -- are things that can be experienced with other people. that's partly why so many people go for rebound relationships: to fill in the void their ex has left behind.

it's not much advice but i guess it's good to have some insight to narrow down why you might still be hung-up. i mean maybe you aren't hung up cuz im just assuming here, but i used to think about all the what-ifs and s***, too, when i still wasnt over things and im sure a lot of other ppl do so ya.
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Hey man, yeah it's been a while! Hope you're all good.

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one thing i always ask myself and other people when they come to me with their relationship problems -- be it a friendship or a romantic relationship -- is whether they miss the actual person or the relationship/intimacy with the person.

the amount of s*** you experience with someone and all the s*** you did with them -- all the dates, the whirlwind of emotions at the start of any relationship, the sex, all the intimate conversations, and so on -- are things that can be experienced with other people. that's partly why so many people go for rebound relationships: to fill in the void their ex has left behind.


That's really good advice. I think people often get too hung up on the person, and can almost become closed off to the idea that the experience/emotion/intimacy can and will be experienced with other people. You talk to anyone aged 60+ and the vast majority of them will tell you about 3/4, and sometimes more, people in their lives that they truly loved. But I know from experience that it can feel like "wow, I had someone and I blew it, there'll never be anyone else". But there will be. The only way there won't be anyone else is if you shut yourself off and don't get out there and find them.
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When my woman and I were going through a rough patch a couple months ago, when she went down south and I stayed up here like a bag of rotten yogurt, I had dreams about her every night. Every single dream was about her or included her in some capacity. It was like Mitas said, unresolved feelings and thoughts, and a lot of guilt.

I've had dreams about an ex before, both in and out of another relationship. Quite disturbing dreams actually. But it's nothing to get flustered about unless it happens on the daily. That's when you need to drink some more milk, get a pump at the gym, and evaluate what the hell's going on in your head.
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Greetings. I will be your waifu this season.

Being with my girlfriend for not far off a year now it makes me feel really s***ty to dream about my ex often.


It's pretty annoying, I know damn well that if that b*** talked to me I'd walk away but my subconscious always has to bring her up just as I've forgotten.

It will be excellent when the day arrives where we can delete our memory just like junk mail :p



It's a normal thing but it can be upsetting. The best thing to do seems to be to talk it out with the person themselves but well, you're not always going to want to and sometimes would be unable to like if they died. Subconscious memory is an annoying thing if you can't consciously activate it anyway why can't it go away <_<
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I used to sometimes. Then I realized she was an ugly piece of s*** and stopped immediately. It helps that I have an amazing relationship now, but yeah. Like others have said, they definitely pass.
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Today I had a dream about her again ....:/ :) But it was nice

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