How to deal with death

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How to deal with death
Tweet Topic Started: Apr 12 2012, 01:04 AM (986 Views)
+ KingOfAllSaiyans	Apr 12 2012, 01:04 AM Post #1
Posts: 2,925 Group: Elite Member Member #6,376 Joined: June 19, 2011 Gender Male Country United States Favourite Anime Neon Genesis Evangelion What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga Berserk	Last week my grandpa got really sick. His liver shut down which in turn made his kidneys stop working. His wish was for no help and too just let him go. Obviously that isnt what we wanted to do, but he wanted it so my dad allowed it too happen. It took about a week for him to pass on. His showing was today and funeral is tomorrow. Ever since we got home from the showing, its hit me hard. I will never see him again or talk to him ever. I wasnt exactly really close with him, but he is my grandpa and its just hard to imagine he is gone forever. So my question is, how do you deal with death? Because im dealing poorly at the moment.



Accelerator	Apr 12 2012, 01:30 AM Post #2
最強の能力者 Posts: 7,505 Group: Super Moderator Member #7,059 Joined: December 12, 2011 Gender Female Country United States Favourite Anime Raildex/Monogatari, Mirai Nikki, Nanatsu no Taizai, Katanagatari, Clannad, Shigatsu, Angel Beats! What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga Tokyo Ghoul, Nanatsu no Taizai, Joshiraku, Owari no Seraph, Railgun, Mangaka-san	In my opinion, what you must never do is keep feelings bottled up. Just let everything flow out and things will heal faster. Death is a tough thing, Ive been in your situation before. There really is no way to deal you just have to realize that they are in a better place and it was his time to move on. If he wanted it, and it was peaceful, he was happy. And thats the best way to go. Im sorry to hear about your loss, KoaS.
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+ KingOfAllSaiyans	Apr 12 2012, 01:42 AM Post #3
Posts: 2,925 Group: Elite Member Member #6,376 Joined: June 19, 2011 Gender Male Country United States Favourite Anime Neon Genesis Evangelion What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga Berserk	Thanks man. For the last hour and a half i've just let things go, and I do feel a lot better.



InterWebZ	Apr 12 2012, 01:47 AM Post #4
Posts: 380 Group: Member Member #7,450 Joined: March 16, 2012	Sorry to hear that, Koas- this sort of thing is always terrible. If you need to, don't be afraid to talk to someone about it either. This can be a parent, a friend, or someone else you trust. Some people prefer talking to a counselor or other professional if friends/family are a bit too close to home. But either way, keeping the whole problem to yourself makes it a lot worse.



Accelerator	Apr 12 2012, 01:53 AM Post #5
最強の能力者 Posts: 7,505 Group: Super Moderator Member #7,059 Joined: December 12, 2011 Gender Female Country United States Favourite Anime Raildex/Monogatari, Mirai Nikki, Nanatsu no Taizai, Katanagatari, Clannad, Shigatsu, Angel Beats! What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga Tokyo Ghoul, Nanatsu no Taizai, Joshiraku, Owari no Seraph, Railgun, Mangaka-san	Yeah, no problem man. Glad to hear your feeling better.
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+ Pyrus	Apr 12 2012, 03:32 AM Post #6
Posts: 39,342 Group: Legend Member #5,088 Joined: August 1, 2010 Gender Not Specified Country Chile	Gogeta SSJ4 Apr 12 2012, 01:30 AM In my opinion, what you must never do is keep feelings bottled up. Just let everything flow out and things will heal faster. Death is a tough thing, Ive been in your situation before. There really is no way to deal you just have to realize that they are in a better place and it was his time to move on. If he wanted it, and it was peaceful, he was happy. And thats the best way to go. Im sorry to hear about your loss, KoaS. Basically this. Keeping feelings bottled up will end up killing you, literally. A lot of men die earlier than women due to suppressing their feelings and keeping everything inside. Sorry to hear about such a thing. Edited by Pyrus, Apr 12 2012, 03:33 AM.
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+ KingOfAllSaiyans	Apr 12 2012, 07:05 PM Post #7
Posts: 2,925 Group: Elite Member Member #6,376 Joined: June 19, 2011 Gender Male Country United States Favourite Anime Neon Genesis Evangelion What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga Berserk	Thanks. We just got back from the funeral and it wasn't that bad. Atleast now it's over.



Accelerator	Apr 12 2012, 07:11 PM Post #8
最強の能力者 Posts: 7,505 Group: Super Moderator Member #7,059 Joined: December 12, 2011 Gender Female Country United States Favourite Anime Raildex/Monogatari, Mirai Nikki, Nanatsu no Taizai, Katanagatari, Clannad, Shigatsu, Angel Beats! What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga Tokyo Ghoul, Nanatsu no Taizai, Joshiraku, Owari no Seraph, Railgun, Mangaka-san	Now that its all over, things will get better for sure.
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+ Pyrus	Apr 12 2012, 08:20 PM Post #9
Posts: 39,342 Group: Legend Member #5,088 Joined: August 1, 2010 Gender Not Specified Country Chile	Yeah, definitely. As long as you keep yourself open and don't dwell on the past or any regrets, you should be fine!
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+ Dan	Apr 12 2012, 08:48 PM Post #10
Better than Red. Posts: 1,571 Group: Elite Member Member #5,757 Joined: February 21, 2011	You can't just ask how to deal with death. It's something that everybody handles differently. I for one have dealt with death by keeping myself to myself because I've always had trouble opening up to people. So there is no definitive way to deal with death. Some people want to get on with their lives and not show much emotion. Some people want to sit in a dark room and cry. You've just got to find your own way of dealing with it and if that includes needing someone to talk to then you have loads of people here that would be happy to listen. I'm really sorry for your loss and hope you feel better soon.
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Strawberry	Apr 12 2012, 09:02 PM Post #11
Chiaroscuro ♥ Posts: 17,000 Group: Rock Princess Member #1,750 Joined: September 24, 2006	Yeah, Dan brought up a really important point here, there is no "right" way to deal with death as it hits people differently and different people will find different ways to deal with it. What I can say about this topic is that I personally find mourning periods to be crucial to deal with the death of our loved ones. It's just not fair when people expect you to see the bright side of things IMMEDIATELY after somebody you loved passed away. For me personally, I've always needed some time on my own to be able to just cry my feelings out and be hurt. I actually NEED that to be able to heal myself. Another important thing is making sure your family stays united throughout the whole process as it usually helps having a good support system around you based on love and comprehension. I feel very, very sorry for your loss, KingOfAllSaiyans. This may sound VERY cliche, but death is only something physical. As long as you remember all the good times you had with your grandpa he will definitely live on forever in your heart and memory.
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+ Steve	Apr 12 2012, 09:05 PM Post #12
Greetings. I will be your waifu this season. Posts: 19,471 Group: Legend Member #5,710 Joined: February 7, 2011 Gender Male Country United Kingdom Favourite Anime Hunter x Hunter(2011) What Browser do you use? Mozilla Firefox Favourite Manga Berserk all day erry day	It rarely effects me. But when it does I just think strongly about how whoever died wouldn't want me to be sad. Grandads are usually funny think of something funny he used to say like an insult for example if you're crying imagine him going "hey cut that out you -insert insult-" And try to think about the possibility of them being there with you still. Imagine how sad they'd feel seeing you in bits for ages over it. Would be extremely depressing not to mention how annoying being dead might be.
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+ Pyrus	Apr 12 2012, 09:07 PM Post #13
Posts: 39,342 Group: Legend Member #5,088 Joined: August 1, 2010 Gender Not Specified Country Chile	I suppose I'm a hypocrite for advocating talking to people while I do the opposite. I keep it all in and go off by myself. I know it's bad to keep the feelings in, but I guess I just accept the risks and do it anyway. Edited by Pyrus, Apr 12 2012, 09:08 PM.
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+ KingOfAllSaiyans	Apr 12 2012, 09:20 PM Post #14
Posts: 2,925 Group: Elite Member Member #6,376 Joined: June 19, 2011 Gender Male Country United States Favourite Anime Neon Genesis Evangelion What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga Berserk	Thanks everyone. After yesterday I really feel so much better. Sometimes you just have to let it all out.



super_saiyan_kev	May 14 2012, 10:04 PM Post #15
Posts: 2 Group: New Member Member #7,639 Joined: May 14, 2012	The first time i dealed with death was 2 years ago this month my cousion diead he was only 17. It's a slow process it takes a while but it gets easier just let it all out and keep your family around you dealing with it as a family is the best way. it's hard to tell anyone how to deal with death cause everyone deals with it in diffrent ways the best information i can give you is just live on i know it's hard but you have to get on with your life it's what your grandad would have wanted you to do. Life and death is all part of life so dont be afriad or ashamed to show your feelings its normal.



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