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| Tweet Topic Started: Sep 29 2011, 03:47 AM (461 Views) | |
| + Pelador | Sep 29 2011, 03:47 AM Post #1 |
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As many of you know I have a crush on a certain person. Despite her not showing any interest in me sexually, I still like her a lot. So much so that I can't seem to go a day without mentioning her name or looking at her photo. Whilst you may think this sounds sweet, it's actually really bugging me. I feel like I'm not in control. This desire to want to be with her all the time is illogical. There are plenty of women where I live who are almost as attractive. This city has some of the hottest looking women I've ever seen. So logically, I should be able to say ah well, she doesn't like me in that way, best move on. Well for some reason I can't do that. She's in my head. trying to persuade me that I'm in love with her. I know it's not love. It's a crush, an obsession. I tell myself she's not even right for me but I still think about her constantly. Every song I hear on the radio reminds me in some way of her. This can't go on. I need advice on how to clear my head and move on. |
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| Cal | Sep 29 2011, 05:17 AM Post #2 |
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I may not deserve to live, but I will protect those in my reach with my reverse blade!
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Go out with another girl anyway. Lose yourself in a night with a different person. When I'm in that situation I call up someone else and take them out and just try to have a good time. It makes you realize that there is more to the world than just her. |
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Oct 2 2011, 05:04 AM Post #3 |
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I'm sorry you've been feeling like this, Pelador. It can be really hard. Trust me, I know. I've been in the same situation before, and it wasn't easy to cope with my feelings. The best advice that I can give you is just to let your feelings run their course, maybe see other women to get your mind off of her, and let time be the biggest form of therapy. Time will mend things eventually; it's what helped me when I was dealing with the same thing. I just tried not to think about him and waited. It was hard - very hard - but eventually enough time passed and I got over him and found someone else. It will all work out eventually. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, but it will soon. Good luck, dear. We love you! <3 |
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| + Pyrus | Oct 2 2011, 09:00 AM Post #4 |
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You'll move on. You may think you're not in control, but you are. You don't have a disease (as far as I know), so there should be no reason that your brain can't move past this. You just have to will it. It sounds cheesy but it's the truth as far as I'm concerned. Those songs you hear that remind you of her? That's your brain picking qualities/memories of her and applying them to the song. You can change that. Your brain can easily do the same thing with another woman, and that's exactly what needs to be done. Go out and get yourself another woman. Even if your obsession doesn't go away with the first girl, it should eventually. If she really isn't right for you, as you've been telling yourself, eventually your brain will realize this and "switch" to someone else in order to protect you from the bad recurring thoughts of this one girl. I liked this girl I met in high school. We've been friends ever since. I had a chance with her but I blew it and waited too long, and then she got together with some other guy (from 2nd year of high school to 2nd year of college, and I'm not even sure if she's back with him again or not right now). We hung out last month and had a really good time, sitting at the beach at night and just talking. My liking of her grew even more. I told her how I felt and she said she didn't want to lose me as a friend if our relationship went sour, so that's why we couldn't be together. At the time, I was really frustrated, but I thought about the situation more and realized it wasn't right. I thought she was a great girl for me, but that was just me being in denial of the things I wouldn't be able to deal with about her (such as her getting hammered when she was depressed). We're still friends, but I don't think about her like that anymore. I just "thought differently". It takes some effort, but it's doable. Yeah, sorry about the tl;dr, but I felt obliged to put it out there. Our brains are incredible. They have a way of protecting us from hurtful things, whether they're minor or major. Eventually you will move on, but only if you're willing to. You can't expect to change anything if you aren't willing to try. That's what I think anyway. If it helps even a little bit, I'm glad. If it doesn't, well, I tried. Edited by Pyrus, Oct 2 2011, 09:00 AM.
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| + Pelador | Oct 2 2011, 11:23 AM Post #5 |
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Yeah I think I'm already starting to get over it. Though the thought of her with anyone else still churns my stomach. |
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| + Pyrus | Oct 2 2011, 08:19 PM Post #6 |
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You could try thinking it's for the better, and that she'll be happy (which is what you want, right?) with whoever she's with. |
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| Fulgore | Oct 2 2011, 10:08 PM Post #7 |
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Find a slam piece.. Getting some is the best way i've found to move on from an emotional attachment |
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