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Sex before Marriage ?
Tweet Topic Started: Sep 25 2006, 08:36 PM (2,927 Views)
Pookie	Sep 30 2006, 03:59 PM Post #16
Pookie Powa! Posts: 18,039 Group: Princesa Pookie Member #1,340 Joined: April 21, 2006 Gender Not Specified Favourite Anime Dragonball Z What Browser do you use? Google Chrome and Firefox	That's why divorce rate is so high now because people don't fall in love with each other's personalities. Instead they just dertermine how good someone is in bed. I mean they pick lust before love. Sex should be the last concern for a couple that is in "love" IF that is all your partner is thinking about then, maybe they aren't looking out for your best interest in mind. People sleep around now and days, I mean not like they didn't in the past, but it happens more frequent now. People sleep around, that's why we have so much disease and crap. In my opinion, saving yourself for marriage tests your lover's love. If they can't wait for you, then they don't love you, that is the way I see it.



* Bex	Sep 30 2006, 04:10 PM Post #17
★ Bextreme Dream ★ Posts: 9,435 Group: Retired Staff Member #1,545 Joined: July 5, 2006 Gender Female Country United Kingdom What Browser do you use? Google Chrome	Plus if they don't love you and they wanna sleep around you may as well leave them. Let em do what they want and let them get diseases and crap. If they really loved you they would be sensible enough to realise that you are of better value to them than lots of sex and getting a desease afterwards.
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Kid_Buu	Oct 2 2006, 04:22 PM Post #18
KID BUU Posts: 1,441 Group: Member Member #1,316 Joined: April 10, 2006	I say wait just for all the reasons for all of you have said (that dealt with marital sex) and also its in my belief system. I think it is a great gift to give the one that you love and waited till you got married to have sex. Your viginity is the most precious thing that you could give to some1 that you Love. Anoth thing is if you had had sex before your partner would want to know and deserves a right to know if you had past girlfriends/boyfriends and if you had sex with thm or not. Also they deserve to have the number of times you have done it with that person. Marriage is a bonding contract that is not easily broken and poeple do not need to be keeping secretes from eachother. I am stil a virgin and I want to keep it that way until I get married. + marius_bleek The guy claims he loves the girl, they have sex, and when her belly starts to swell up, HE'S OUTTA THERE! stupid guys I agree with you there. I know there are some irrisponsible guys out there that will leave the girl there with no support to raise a child bythemselves. I also mean thier parents won't letthem back in the house and make them live on thier own. If the girl is lucky enough the parents will help them raise the kid which means the parents are a really loveing and forgiveng. This is why I think Sex after marrige is the best option for anyone and everyone that is thinking about haveing sex. REMEMBER KIDS ABSTENINCE IS THE BEST WAY TO GO!!!!!!!



Nanadaime	Oct 2 2006, 04:40 PM Post #19
My Zanpaktou is not a monster! Posts: 140 Group: Member Member #1,143 Joined: February 14, 2006	Kid_Buu Oct 2 2006, 04:22 PM I say wait just for all the reasons for all of you have said (that dealt with marital sex) and also its in my belief system. I think it is a great gift to give the one that you love and waited till you got married to have sex. Your viginity is the most precious thing that you could give to some1 that you Love. Anoth thing is if you had had sex before your partner would want to know and deserves a right to know if you had past girlfriends/boyfriends and if you had sex with thm or not. Also they deserve to have the number of times you have done it with that person. Marriage is a bonding contract that is not easily broken and poeple do not need to be keeping secretes from eachother. I am stil a virgin and I want to keep it that way until I get married. + marius_bleek The guy claims he loves the girl, they have sex, and when her belly starts to swell up, HE'S OUTTA THERE! stupid guys I agree with you there. I know there are some irrisponsible guys out there that will leave the girl there with no support to raise a child bythemselves. I also mean thier parents won't letthem back in the house and make them live on thier own. If the girl is lucky enough the parents will help them raise the kid which means the parents are a really loveing and forgiveng. This is why I think Sex after marrige is the best option for anyone and everyone that is thinking about haveing sex. REMEMBER KIDS ABSTENINCE IS THE BEST WAY TO GO!!!!!!! Kid Buu you've just made an exllente point a boy could say i luv you and not mean it and as soon as she's pregant bye bye. The girls at times are at fault too some pop the condoms so they can get pregant which results in the man leaving her so it basically depends how you see it. All in all i think marriage is the way to go
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Kid_Buu	Oct 2 2006, 07:30 PM Post #20
KID BUU Posts: 1,441 Group: Member Member #1,316 Joined: April 10, 2006	Thanx for the support but I couldn't take all the cred for what I said in the second half. + marius_Bleek said it first I just elaborated on it. Anyhow yes mariage for my ideal is the way to go.



Strawberry	Oct 3 2006, 11:17 PM Post #21
Chiaroscuro ♥ Posts: 17,000 Group: Rock Princess Member #1,750 Joined: September 24, 2006	Sex before marriage. I believe it's really important to know how much you connect with someone in a sexual level. Also, I think it's much healthier for you to know how your body works before that big decision that is marriage.
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Graffiti	Oct 4 2006, 03:22 AM Post #22
MGD. Posts: 3,298 Group: GFX Team Member #204 Joined: February 21, 2005 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime Black Lagoon, One Piece, DBZ What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga Bleach	Unless someone real loves his/her fiance or girlfriend, then It's not much of a problem
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* Kogu 87	Oct 4 2006, 03:25 AM Post #23
Training hard !! Posts: 3,361 Group: Retired Staff Member #916 Joined: December 2, 2005 Favourite Anime Dragonball Z What Browser do you use? Firefox	Quote: Sex before marriage. I believe it's really important to know how much you connect with someone in a sexual level. So you may base your choice on who you marry, by how could the sex is ? I see, so let's go around the block....try it out with different people....have a good time...That can lead to a few bothersome things. Quote: Also, I think it's much healthier for you to know how your body works before that big decision that is marriage. I'm not sure what you mean by that....it's not healthy in anyway....it has no advantages, you basically just want to be expirienced in it. That comes in time anyway, so there really isn't a problem in that aspect. Having sex/ making love is one of the greatest things on this planet....in this life. Wouldn't you rather have it, with the person whome you want to spend the rest of your life with ? It is when two souls become one.....its somthing sacred....life is born from this action. <ahem>....err, whatever, i got ma point accross.....im an old fashioned kinda guy XD .
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Strawberry	Oct 4 2006, 10:07 AM Post #24
Chiaroscuro ♥ Posts: 17,000 Group: Rock Princess Member #1,750 Joined: September 24, 2006	Well, let's see how can I explain. Imagine you love someone, you feel like you wanna spend the rest of your life with that person. Ok, that's beautiful. The deal is... you don't know how that person is in a sexual level. You may think this is not important at all but it is. Your sexual life is gonna be something really important to get your mind healthy and for you to feel well in all ways. If you marry with someone and you don't know how it will be, you can't exactly tell your sexual life is going to work out. You learn a lot with your different relationships in a spiritual and emotional level. That's just what happens in your sexual life, you have to learn. You learn how to work together. So sometimes you marry someone and you just don't feel right about how things are happening in a sexual level. That's because the both of you have always thought of how it will be and never experienced that. And you say: Oh, but I can learn with the person I marry. Yes, that's true, but it will be way more difficult. When you make love for the first time you think you'll spend the rest of your life with that person, and well, it usually doesnt happen. But it's alright cause that was just a date, you see it doesnt work but you can always move on. A marriage is such a big deal. You can't just see it doesnt work at all and say good-bye. That's why I said I believe it's healthier for your marriage to already know how you work with the person you love.
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Pookie	Oct 4 2006, 04:29 PM Post #25
Pookie Powa! Posts: 18,039 Group: Princesa Pookie Member #1,340 Joined: April 21, 2006 Gender Not Specified Favourite Anime Dragonball Z What Browser do you use? Google Chrome and Firefox	Pineapple Oct 4 2006, 05:07 AM Well, let's see how can I explain. Imagine you love someone, you feel like you wanna spend the rest of your life with that person. Ok, that's beautiful. The deal is... you don't know how that person is in a sexual level. You may think this is not important at all but it is. Your sexual life is gonna be something really important to get your mind healthy and for you to feel well in all ways. If you marry with someone and you don't know how it will be, you can't exactly tell your sexual life is going to work out. You learn a lot with your different relationships in a spiritual and emotional level. That's just what happens in your sexual life, you have to learn. You learn how to work together. So sometimes you marry someone and you just don't feel right about how things are happening in a sexual level. That's because the both of you have always thought of how it will be and never experienced that. And you say: Oh, but I can learn with the person I marry. Yes, that's true, but it will be way more difficult. When you make love for the first time you think you'll spend the rest of your life with that person, and well, it usually doesnt happen. But it's alright cause that was just a date, you see it doesnt work but you can always move on. A marriage is such a big deal. You can't just see it doesnt work at all and say good-bye. That's why I said I believe it's healthier for your marriage to already know how you work with the person you love. If you were my boyfriend and you told me that .. oh boy, lol I think most women would given a slap across the face if their boyfriend had told them that. I mean I can see where you are coming from, but at the same time it is like What??? I think the whole purpose of saving yourself, is for that person to love you beyond the sexual part. This is the honest truth, most people cannot tell the difference between Lust and Love. That is the honest truth, it was on discovery channel..no lie. What I have learned is that, when you make love with someone you make love with everyone else he/she made love with. For example lets say your girlfriend had 5 boyfriends before you, well you are basically sleeping with her, and those 5 boyfriends. Why would you want to be with someone who is experienced. In fact..wouldn't it be more fun to learn together? If you and your partner are virgins, after marriage, it would make it a lot more worthwhile. You and her are going to want to make love , to practice, and get better at it..but if you already had sex with that person several times before marriage..then wouldn't it get boring? I mean that doesn't necessarily mean you would be bored with the person, but it does ruin the whole first experience, type of thing. Love is sacred, love is special. Making love should be something permanent between two people that will remain together permanently. If you have sex with someone before you get married and something goes wrong (for example the women gets pregnant), then what? Love and Lust can conflict a lot. You said, the person who you first make love with or have sex with you usually don't stay with. That is not true. My parents waited till they were married. If you lose your virginity to someone, you have an emotional bond with them (especially if your a woman.) You don't want to let go because they were your FIRST. First experiences are always the ones you remember. Having sex after your married is healthier because you learned to love the person you are with for them, and not the physical aspects of it. You know if something were to ever happen (God forbid) where they couldn't or you couldn't.. you know that the physical part wouldn't be important that they would still love you, etc. Also, like I said before, people who first make love after marriage are going to want to keep doing it to get better (who wouldn't want that?) If you are a guy (men tend to be more possessive, or well tend to get a sense of feeling that their women is theirs alone) and you make love to a virgin , that is probably one of the most comfortable feelings to have. That the woman or man you love, has only been with you and most likely, will only want to be with you. So yes having sex after marriage is definitely what I'm going to do.



* Bex	Oct 4 2006, 06:04 PM Post #26
★ Bextreme Dream ★ Posts: 9,435 Group: Retired Staff Member #1,545 Joined: July 5, 2006 Gender Female Country United Kingdom What Browser do you use? Google Chrome	Good for you Chi chi! I'm gonna end up doing that as well. No matter how many girls want to do it before marriage XD But more seriously i agree with you Chi chi. Couldn't have put it better myself ^^
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Strawberry	Oct 4 2006, 07:08 PM Post #27
Chiaroscuro ♥ Posts: 17,000 Group: Rock Princess Member #1,750 Joined: September 24, 2006	I couldn't be your boyfriend coz I am a girl lol Well, I understand what you said. But that just doesnt work for me. I think it is really important to know your partner at all levels before you marry. I'm not gonna say much about it again, cause this is a private decision of everyone. Still, I can tell the difference between lust and love. And your vision of things is too romantic. That is beautiful, and I'd love it to be that way, but the fact is that your sexual life is going to be such an important thing in your marriage, if you marry and you dont know you're gonna work that level with your partner, it really can ruin everything. Of course the love you feel is the most important, but making love is all a part of it. And I just wanna be sure I connect with the person I love before I get to have such a big decision.
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* Kogu 87	Oct 4 2006, 08:40 PM Post #28
Training hard !! Posts: 3,361 Group: Retired Staff Member #916 Joined: December 2, 2005 Favourite Anime Dragonball Z What Browser do you use? Firefox	Quote: Imagine you love someone, you feel like you wanna spend the rest of your life with that person. Ok, that's beautiful. The deal is... you don't know how that person is in a sexual level. You may think this is not important at all but it is. Your sexual life is gonna be something really important to get your mind healthy and for you to feel well in all ways. I don't agree with you. Even if the sex isn't spectacular in the beginning, it will get better, and as it gets better you will do it more often. Insert the love aspect of it all and it becomes even more explosive. If you start now, sex will be just another thing. You'v done it before many times....it just won't be the same. You sound like your more into the physicall things of a marriage. Maybe your not like that, but thtas the way you make it seem.
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ssjmkm	Oct 4 2006, 10:49 PM Post #29
Photoshop Noob Posts: 297 Group: Member Member #785 Joined: October 21, 2005	I favor both. I believe one should wait till marriage to have sex, but for me marriage is just a document saying your married to each other. So i feel that if two people really love each other and can handle having sex then they should go for it. If its one sided then its wrong. Like a guy pressuring a girl or vice versa. Marriage is honorable but its more difficult.
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Strawberry	Oct 4 2006, 11:38 PM Post #30
Chiaroscuro ♥ Posts: 17,000 Group: Rock Princess Member #1,750 Joined: September 24, 2006	{KIK} Kogu 87 Oct 4 2006, 08:40 PM Quote: You sound like your more into the physicall things of a marriage. Maybe your not like that, but thtas the way you make it seem. No. I am not more into the physicall thing. Too bad you think I am. One thing's pretty clear to me, making love is something big, really big. I wanna know if I connect with the person I love before my marriage. And that includes all levels. I am not gonna keep answering on this thread anyway. I respect if you think you should only have sexy after marriage. But it doesn't work for me. I think marriage is supposed to be a big thing, one of the biggest things in your life. I wanna feel sure about it. Love is everything, making love is a part of it.
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