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Is it disgusting to marry or date family members and family friends?
Topic Started: Feb 12 2017, 07:30 AM (1,930 Views)
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Feb 13 2017, 03:55 AM
There definitely seems to be an issue here with defining "family friend". I see that SSJSC is saying that "in terms of family friends, our culture think of them as non-blood related relatives". While, I (and I believe many others) are defining a family friend as a individual who is a friends with more than one member of your family or has been a long time friend of a family member and is socially active within your family.

From my perspective on the topic of dating, there is no difference between a family friend and a friend. If I find that individual attractive and I would like to pursue something then I go ahead with it.
Family friends are actually the people you have to put up with, just like your family members. That's why I don't see a reason to marry them or date them. They're kind of like non-blood related cousins.
Edited by SSJSC, Feb 13 2017, 04:11 AM.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:07 AM
Green
Feb 13 2017, 03:55 AM
There definitely seems to be an issue here with defining "family friend". I see that SSJSC is saying that "in terms of family friends, our culture think of them as non-blood related relatives". While, I (and I believe many others) are defining a family friend as a individual who is a friends with more than one member of your family or has been a long time friend of a family member and is socially active within your family.

From my perspective on the topic of dating, there is no difference between a family friend and a friend. If I find that individual attractive and I would like to pursue something then I go ahead with it.
Family friends are actually the people you have to put up with, just like your family members. That's why I don't see a reason to marry them or date them.
You should elaborate further on that, your current definition includes everyone from your bus driver to your co-workers/classmates to your pastor in church to your local mayor.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:10 AM
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Feb 13 2017, 04:07 AM
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Feb 13 2017, 03:55 AM
There definitely seems to be an issue here with defining "family friend". I see that SSJSC is saying that "in terms of family friends, our culture think of them as non-blood related relatives". While, I (and I believe many others) are defining a family friend as a individual who is a friends with more than one member of your family or has been a long time friend of a family member and is socially active within your family.

From my perspective on the topic of dating, there is no difference between a family friend and a friend. If I find that individual attractive and I would like to pursue something then I go ahead with it.
Family friends are actually the people you have to put up with, just like your family members. That's why I don't see a reason to marry them or date them.
You should elaborate further on that, your current definition includes everyone from your bus driver to your co-workers/classmates to your pastor in church to your local mayor.
Ok, I'm only talking about parents' best friends. Sorry for the confusion.
Edited by SSJSC, Feb 13 2017, 04:13 AM.
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So you consider friends of your parents family friends, but not your own friends family friends? I call my most closest friends family friends because they are friendly with my family and vise versa.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:19 AM
So you consider friends of your parents family friends, but not your own friends family friends? I call my most closest friends family friends because they are friendly with my family and vise versa.
Why would I call my friends family friends? Their parents don't have a relationship with my parents or any elder relatives in my family at all.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:22 AM
Emmeth
Feb 13 2017, 04:19 AM
So you consider friends of your parents family friends, but not your own friends family friends? I call my most closest friends family friends because they are friendly with my family and vise versa.
Why would I call my friends family friends? Their parents don't have a relationship with my parents or any elder relatives in my family at all.
The term "family friend" is very broad and depends on the person. In your case, a 'family friend' needs to be friends of your parents. That's not necessarily true in my case.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:24 AM
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Feb 13 2017, 04:22 AM
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Feb 13 2017, 04:19 AM
So you consider friends of your parents family friends, but not your own friends family friends? I call my most closest friends family friends because they are friendly with my family and vise versa.
Why would I call my friends family friends? Their parents don't have a relationship with my parents or any elder relatives in my family at all.
The term "family friend" is very broad and depends on the person. In your case, a 'family friend' needs to be friends of your parents. That's not necessarily true in my case.
My culture is like that. But anyone who is very close with your parents is someone you have to put up with on the same level as your parents.
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So you think it's wrong to date 'family members'. That's fine, but it's not like that for everybody.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:30 AM
So you think it's wrong to date 'family members'. That's fine, but it's not like that for everybody.
If you want to look at my term of family friends as family members, it's fine, but you don't have to. I just consider them as people part of my family regardless. Because I see my parents' friends and their kids at family events a lot. You probably do too.
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Not really. When family events happen, it's only family. There's the occasional friends of my grandparents, but other than that it's just family. Different culture up here.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:35 AM
Not really. When family events happen, it's only family. There's the occasional friends of my grandparents, but other than that it's just family. Different culture up here.
Your grandparents' friends can be called your family friends too. And I agree, you don't have to necessarily see your parents' friends at family events. It can even be your grandparents' friends also.
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My parents do have friends that we used to see very often. In fact, I live in the same building as their son, which happens to be one of my best friends. But since my parents' split up 10+ years ago and I moved out, I just don't see them that often anymore.
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Feb 13 2017, 04:40 AM
My parents do have friends that we used to see very often. In fact, I live in the same building as their son, which happens to be one of my best friends. But since my parents' split up 10+ years ago and I moved out, I just don't see them that often anymore.
That's okay. People drift apart sometimes. I treat family friends like cousins and nieces sometimes. You don't see them that often, but if you do, you probably won't even know they are one of the three. They're not like brothers and sisters which you see more often and can only have up to 3.
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What do you mean by "can only have up to 3"? My dad has 5 siblings.
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Well, you can have up to 3 brothers or sisters, which is a total of 4-5 kids in the household. Family friends and cousins, you can have as many as you want. Some people even have 40-50 cousins.
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