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But, society defines concepts all the time and they're always accepted. Race isn't real, technically, we're all humans, just from different parts of the world and raised in different cultures. But everyone accepts those distinctions. Money is a human made system and concept, that we assign values to ourselves, but that's accepted. Social constructs are a way for humans to talk to others about how we feel and to define the world around us. Just because they're social constructs, or man made, doesn't mean it's necessarily bad. Labels aren't bad when we use them for ourselves.

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Why is it silly to categorize gender in a way that fits to us personally?

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I don't know how many examples I have to link you to show it's not a new thing and it's certainly not a 'fad'. On the topic of sexuality, different from gender, I am actually bisexual myself. So many people see heterosexual as the norm that they think of other sexualities as fads, especially if you're heterosexual yourself, and it's simply not true. (this was in reference to your first post, not the one made recently. I saw that after I posted.)

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Calalai are anatomical females who take on many of the roles and functions expected of men. For instance, Rani works alongside men as a blacksmith, shaping kris, small blades and other knives. Rani wears men's clothing and ties hir sarong in the fashion of men. Rani also lives with hir wife and their adopted child, Erna. While Rani works with men, dresses as a man, smokes cigarettes, and walks alone at night, which are all things women are not encouraged to do, Rani is female and therefore not considered a man. Nor does Rani wish to become a man. Rani is calalai. Rani's female anatomy, combined with hir occupation, behaviour, and sexuality, allows Rani to identify, and be identified, as a calalai.

Calabai, conversely, are anatomical males who, in many respects, adhere to the expectations of women. However, calabai do not consider themselves women, are not considered women. Nor do they wish to become women, either by accepting restrictions placed on women such as not going out alone at night, or by recreating their body through surgery. However, whereas calalai tend to conform more to the norms of men, calabai have created a specific role for themselves in Bugis society.

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labels only need to exist in as much as there is to look at e.g. there are different skin colours, just as there are different genetalia, and none of those labels need to have any impact on a person's identity or personality.

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I feel that outside of labeling somebody by how their body is i.e. penis/male, vagina/female, everything else only exists because of how society has evolved, and can quite easily change it's definition, or disappear entirely. The only thing that doesn't change is the body, so any other labels are unnecessary.

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Sex can be much more complicated than it at first seems. According to the simple scenario, the presence or absence of a Y chromosome is what counts: with it, you are male, and without it, you are female. But doctors have long known that some people straddle the boundary — their sex chromosomes say one thing, but their gonads (ovaries or testes) or sexual anatomy say another. Parents of children with these kinds of conditions — known as intersex conditions, or differences or disorders of sex development (DSDs) — often face difficult decisions about whether to bring up their child as a boy or a girl. Some researchers now say that as many as 1 person in 100 has some form of DSD2.

When genetics is taken into consideration, the boundary between the sexes becomes even blurrier. Scientists have identified many of the genes involved in the main forms of DSD, and have uncovered variations in these genes that have subtle effects on a person's anatomical or physiological sex. What's more, new technologies in DNA sequencing and cell biology are revealing that almost everyone is, to varying degrees, a patchwork of genetically distinct cells, some with a sex that might not match that of the rest of their body. Some studies even suggest that the sex of each cell drives its behaviour, through a complicated network of molecular interactions. “I think there's much greater diversity within male or female, and there is certainly an area of overlap where some people can't easily define themselves within the binary structure,” says John Achermann, who studies sex development and endocrinology at University College London's Institute of Child Health.

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Because if we were all to categorise things in order to fit us personally, we would have 7 billion different categories for everyone to fall in. Personality is such a unique and complex thing that it seems silly to try and categorise it. But a body is quite simple to categorise. I don't see why people can't just accept that pronouns like 'he' or 'she' do not in anyway refer to your personality, nor is it trying to accurately sum up who you are as a person, it's just a mechanic of language to refer to somebody using the quickest identifier short of just saying 'human'.

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But it is a new thing. "Agender" or "non-binary" as we know it today is not the same as Calalai and Calabai in Indonesia. I'll quote the explanations again for anyone interested:

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Agender is a term which can be literally translated as 'without gender'. It can be seen either as a non-binary gender identity or as a statement of not having a gender identity.

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Calalai are anatomical females who take on many of the roles and functions expected of men. [...] While Rani works with men, dresses as a man, smokes cigarettes, and walks alone at night, which are all things women are not encouraged to do, Rani is female and therefore not considered a man. Nor does Rani wish to become a man. Rani is calalai. Rani's female anatomy, combined with hir occupation, behaviour, and sexuality, allows Rani to identify, and be identified, as a calalai.

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"Calabai, conversely, are anatomical males who, in many respects, adhere to the expectations of women. However, calabai do not consider themselves women, are not considered women."

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Notice that the Calalai and Calabai are described as "male" or "female" with characteristics representative of the opposite gender.

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They reject both genders because they reject social stereotypes. Agender has nothing to do with biology--rather, it is a fruitless rejection of social constructs.

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In both cases, they're saying that while they were born anatomically one way, and though the act the way the other binary does, they are not either. They are not 'male' or 'female' binary genders. They are, respectively, calalai and calabai. Again, lacking a binary gender, neither male or female. Agender in repsect to the binary genders, non-binary. Same thing. Not new. Not a fad.

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Race isn't real, technically, we're all humans, just from different parts of the world and raised in different cultures.

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So if the law requires that a person is male or female, should that sex be assigned by anatomy, hormones, cells or chromosomes, and what should be done if they clash? “My feeling is that since there is not one biological parameter that takes over every other parameter, at the end of the day, gender identity seems to be the most reasonable parameter,” says Vilain. In other words, if you want to know whether someone is male or female, it may be best just to ask.

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Even penis = male, vagina = female is a social construct.

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Also, in terms of pronouns, it's really not that hard to use them once someone tells you what theirs are. I actually tend to use gender-neutral terms, such as they/them, until I know otherwise what a person prefers. People are allowed to have preferences in what they're referred to as and going against that, especially willfully, can be frustrating for them and seen as disrespectful.

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I will only say that language is a developing tool and we constantly create new terms to use and identify ourselves with as we learn about ourselves and the world around us and how we relate to it.

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When I said it, I meant in relation to the fact that we are all of the human species. Biologically, we are not ducks or aliens or w/e. However, we most certainly have different cultures, which are social constructs, and those do define and impact our identities and personalities. That is beyond skin color and what you can 'look at'.

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I feel that outside of labeling somebody by how their body is i.e. penis/male, vagina/female, everything else only exists because of how society has evolved, and can quite easily change it's definition, or disappear entirely. The only thing that doesn't change is the body, so any other labels are unnecessary.

Well, besides culture, like I just went over. Furthermore, humans are a social species and social constructs are important to us. We've made structures of culture and ethnicity and even gender to achieve that need of being with each other. Even penis = male, vagina = female is a social construct.

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While gender is a concept of society, it is one we need. Even if someone identifies as genderless, they'd still be defining themselves in terms of gender - having none. We thrive on cultural identity, which gender is a part of. It brings a togetherness that humans both desire and need, and to say that it doesn't exist, or that it shouldn't matter, discredits the fields of psychology and sociology as well as all of anthropology.

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While gender is a concept of society, it is one we need. Even if someone identifies as genderless, they'd still be defining themselves in terms of gender - having none. We thrive on cultural identity, which gender is a part of. It brings a togetherness that humans both desire and need, and to say that it doesn't exist, or that it shouldn't matter, discredits the fields of psychology and sociology as well as all of anthropology.