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Cheating on your lover/being cheated on
Tweet Topic Started: Sep 10 2016, 03:27 AM (1,789 Views)
+ Pyrus	Sep 11 2016, 03:03 AM Post #16
Posts: 39,342 Group: Legend Member #5,088 Joined: August 1, 2010 Gender Not Specified Country Chile	Get in the open relationship, son. The freedom is exhilarating. That's the solution to cheating.
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~~Doggo Champion 2k17~~	Sep 11 2016, 06:37 PM Post #17
Posts: 7,931 Group: GTFO Member #6,380 Joined: June 20, 2011 Country United States Favourite Anime here comes What Browser do you use? o shit waddup! Favourite Manga dat boi	Barry Allen Sep 11 2016, 02:34 AM OFG Sep 10 2016, 05:31 PM I've both cheated and been cheated on. If you're in a serious relationship and actually love someone, why cheat? If you're unhappy, there are other ways of working out the issue or solving your problem. what the doctor who are you talking about? youve never loved before? were you not able to solve your own problem? im so lost... No, I'm just capable of admitting that I used to be a piece of s***.



+ Havoc_Wreaker	Sep 11 2016, 09:52 PM Post #18
Popcorn Posts: 9,904 Group: Elite Member Member #5,870 Joined: March 19, 2011 Gender Other Country Canada	OFG Sep 11 2016, 06:37 PM Barry Allen Sep 11 2016, 02:34 AM OFG Sep 10 2016, 05:31 PM I've both cheated and been cheated on. If you're in a serious relationship and actually love someone, why cheat? If you're unhappy, there are other ways of working out the issue or solving your problem. what the doctor who are you talking about? youve never loved before? were you not able to solve your own problem? im so lost... No, I'm just capable of admitting that I used to be a piece of s***. Used to be? Nah I'm just playing, was a bit confused thanks for the clarification. At least your honest that's a good trait.



+ Steve	Sep 11 2016, 10:16 PM Post #19
Greetings. I will be your waifu this season. Posts: 19,471 Group: Legend Member #5,710 Joined: February 7, 2011 Gender Male Country United Kingdom Favourite Anime Hunter x Hunter(2011) What Browser do you use? Mozilla Firefox Favourite Manga Berserk all day erry day	I also don't feel too strongly about one off cheating. I feel like a lot of blame is placed on the cheater and yeah it's totally a bad thing to do while supposedly being committed to someone. But if it's not just a "YOLO I'm going to screw someone else" thing and is more that a person feels unsatisfied or unloved, then the relationship as a whole has issues. While I wouldn't say the blame is split 50/50 in such a case if your partner cheated on you then you probably weren't catering to their needs be it emotionally or physically. If it's purely physical that's something that can be resolved, provided sex drives can be matched or other arrangements can be made. Emotional not so much, if the cheater is falling out of love then it's probably better to end it, unless it's a married couple. In that case I'd say the couple owe it to the vows they made to try fix it. Have a second honeymoon or whatever. and try to reignite whatever you had for each other. I've kind of and kind of not been cheated on, I've had girls go off with other dudes but I was naive enough at the time to actually think I was in a relationship. Was basically just kept in the friendzone for when either girl was lonely enough to need attention. Don't feel like it truly counts, sure hurt though. Never cheated but have certainly thought about it, on a purely physical level. I love my girlfriend but my sex drive is probably higher than that of the average pornstar and hers is like a devout nuns. No fault of her own, various illnesses and such ruin hers but mine is unstoppable. Can certainly see the appeal to having multiple partners, if the gf gave the okay(and I was actually confident enough to do it) I'd find physical relief elsewhere. The problem with that of course is sex can make you attached to someone emotionally, definitely not a solution for everyone.
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Buuberries	Sep 11 2016, 10:21 PM Post #20
No Posts: 7,150 Group: Members Member #8,753 Joined: December 30, 2012 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime The Passion of Christ What Browser do you use? Christianity Favourite Manga The Bible	how do you guys feel about the person someone cheated w/ if they werent in the kno
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+ Steve	Sep 11 2016, 10:40 PM Post #21
Greetings. I will be your waifu this season. Posts: 19,471 Group: Legend Member #5,710 Joined: February 7, 2011 Gender Male Country United Kingdom Favourite Anime Hunter x Hunter(2011) What Browser do you use? Mozilla Firefox Favourite Manga Berserk all day erry day	Buuberries Sep 11 2016, 10:21 PM how do you guys feel about the person someone cheated w/ if they werent in the kno I never see much reason to blame them even if they did know honestly. They're just a means to an end, if someone is breaking their wedding vows to f*** them the person breaking vows is wayyy more at fault. Not a nice thing to do if you know of course but it's not like they were committed to someone. Obviously a different story if the other woman/man/zebrasexual manipulated the person in to doing it.
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Goddess Ultimecia	Sep 11 2016, 10:44 PM Post #22
Posts: 10,145 Group: RP Moderator Member #8,473 Joined: October 26, 2012 Gender Male Country None	As far as I'm concerned, if you want to cheat, just break up. You're doing a lot less damage in the long run that way.
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+ Pyrus	Sep 11 2016, 10:46 PM Post #23
Posts: 39,342 Group: Legend Member #5,088 Joined: August 1, 2010 Gender Not Specified Country Chile	If Jill knows Bob is cheating on Jan, and is actively supporting it and encouraging it, she's almost as much to blame as Bob. She could cut it off at any point, and make Jan aware of it, maybe stopping Bob from doing it to more women in the future potentially. So I'd say 55/45 for Bob/Jill at that point. If Jill didn't know, how could I really blame her? Some people are really good at hiding their previous/current relationship from the person they're cheating with. It'd all be Bob's fault there.
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~~Helvius Pertinax Augustus~~	Sep 12 2016, 02:52 AM Post #24
What will you do when you get old? Posts: 1,096 Group: Suspended Member #12,915 Joined: February 8, 2016 Gender Not Specified Country United States Favourite Anime Don't actually watch anime What Browser do you use? Internet Explorer Favourite Manga Don't read manga	Goddess Ultimecia Sep 11 2016, 10:44 PM As far as I'm concerned, if you want to cheat, just break up. You're doing a lot less damage in the long run that way. Depends on how mentally unstable your partner is, but generally yeah this should be the ideal solution.



~~Squall Strife~~	Sep 12 2016, 02:58 AM Post #25
Posts: 1,188 Group: Suspended Member #13,373 Joined: July 12, 2016 Gender Male	Cheating is not even justified in any situation tbh. If someone cheats, than that person really doesn't care how the other feels in the relationship.So there's that. lol
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* Mitas	Sep 12 2016, 10:35 AM Post #26
It truly was a Shawshank redemption Posts: 12,129 Group: Retired Staff Member #2,993 Joined: December 16, 2007 Gender Male Favourite Anime DBZ What Browser do you use? Google Chrome Favourite Manga DBZ, Full Metal Alchemist	I don't think anyone here was saying it's ever justified. I certainly wasn't. I was just saying that it's not always as cut and dry as 'u damn cheating scum of the earth'. Quote: Mitas, while I would agree to an extent, I would never be able to forgive someone for cheating because (to me) I just can't understand or sympathize with it. It strikes me as extremely weak and immature. That stems from my own relatively low sex drive/borderline asexual-ness, so that's probably unfair of me, but that's just how I feel. It devastates me too much to think that the person I'm with can't control their base urges for the sake of love the way that I can (mostly because I rarely feel those urges to begin with, but hey). Now, if my partner were to come to me and tell me how they felt, or confess to me that they felt like they might cheat, I may be inclined to suggest a short-term breakup. I'm an understanding person as long as I'm not lied to and betrayed. But..you said yourself that you have cheated. So you can't control your base urges. Like I said, nobody is perfect, we're all susceptible to these innate urges we have. I can completely understand why people would vilify cheaters no matter the circumstance. Nobody likes being cheated on (unless you're into that) and it should be discouraged. But, I personally feel it's weak and immature to make people feel like s*** for one mistake that they never intended to make, or to have a relationship that could very well work out well but for that one mistake. I don't wanna come across as the guy who's like 'cheating is A-OK'. It's not. But humans are humans. We aren't perfect.
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~~Doggo Champion 2k17~~	Sep 12 2016, 12:27 PM Post #27
Posts: 7,931 Group: GTFO Member #6,380 Joined: June 20, 2011 Country United States Favourite Anime here comes What Browser do you use? o shit waddup! Favourite Manga dat boi	Just to clarify, I didn't cheat because I couldn't control my urges. I cheated because I was trying to figure out my sexuality and treated the people I dated like crap. To be fair, my first ex was extremely manipulative and abusive, so I don't really regret hurting her. But still. I've since figured out that sex doesn't really matter to me, so I can't sympathize with the cheaters who "just couldn't control themselves."



Dankness Lava	Sep 13 2016, 06:48 AM Post #28
Dankness Forever Posts: 6,348 Group: Tha Dankness Member #9,197 Joined: March 16, 2013 Gender Not Specified Country None Favourite Anime Hajime no Ippo What Browser do you use? Chrome Favourite Manga One Piece	Well where's your basis of comparison? If sex doesn't matter much to you but it does for someone else obviously you can't relate lol



~~Doggo Champion 2k17~~	Sep 13 2016, 01:21 PM Post #29
Posts: 7,931 Group: GTFO Member #6,380 Joined: June 20, 2011 Country United States Favourite Anime here comes What Browser do you use? o shit waddup! Favourite Manga dat boi	Shining Light Sep 13 2016, 06:48 AM Well where's your basis of comparison? If sex doesn't matter much to you but it does for someone else obviously you can't relate lol Quote: Mitas, while I would agree to an extent, I would never be able to forgive someone for cheating because (to me) I just can't understand or sympathize with it. It strikes me as extremely weak and immature. That stems from my own relatively low sex drive/borderline asexual-ness, so that's probably unfair of me, but that's just how I feel. It devastates me too much to think that the person I'm with can't control their base urges for the sake of love the way that I can (mostly because I rarely feel those urges to begin with, but hey). Now, if my partner were to come to me and tell me how they felt, or confess to me that they felt like they might cheat, I may be inclined to suggest a short-term breakup. I'm an understanding person as long as I'm not lied to and betrayed. I feel like I worded it in a way that suggests I understand that.



+ Pointer	Sep 13 2016, 02:00 PM Post #30
... Posts: 7,062 Group: Elite Member Member #8,812 Joined: January 5, 2013 Gender Male	what i just can not get is that WHY did they cheat? Be Man or Female.. cheating is the worst thing you can do to your partner . If you like another person, or you just simply want to quit. then quit. It is more better way to cancel the relationship than cheating on someone. As far as I concerned I havent done it, as I find it disrespectful and a damn s* thing in overall. I however was once being cheated on. It was devastating... which resulted my mistrust for every woman. That is why I couldnt find a decent parter for years. Edited by Pointer**, Sep 13 2016, 02:00 PM.



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